photo by Kenzie Saunders
I like this photo, because when I first saw it I saw a broken flower, but when I looked closer I realized it was plastic. The title of this photo is “Fake Sorrow”. How appropriate is that?
Sorrow and the various forms it can take — depression, melancholy, grief, distress [...]
Fear is just one negative emotion that can be feigned. There are others like righteous anger and indignation. Instead of coming from a place of weakness like fear, indignation and righteous anger appears to come from strength. But in truth all manipulation comes from weakness.
Feigned indignation and righteous anger is a multipurpose weapon used [...]
Feigning means to fake, to act “as if”, to pretend. You can fake anything, including emotions. Any perceived emotion or state of being can be used to hide, mislead, seduce or distract.
In themselves, all emotional states of being just are. They can have negative impact if we deny their existence, thereby denying healing [...]
The aim of covert abuse is to manipulate, to control or harm another without getting caught.
Manipulation is, by definition, difficult to spot. Some ways are easier to see than others, but it does require vigilance to be aware, and a challenge to maintain balance within ourselves. The greatest danger of being a target of [...]
Covert abuse: the assaults, the pain…did I do something to deserve this?
I could leave it at that and end this post, but I’ll delve into it a little further in case you’re not convinced. And if you’re a victim of covert abuse, chances are you aren’t.
Covert abuse, with its systematic erosion [...]