Covert abuse: the assaults, the pain…did I do something to deserve this?
I could leave it at that and end this post, but I’ll delve into it a little further in case you’re not convinced. And if you’re a victim of covert abuse, chances are you aren’t.
Covert abuse, with its systematic erosion [...]
Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?
When we experience covert abuse, the very subtlety of it can make us feel embarrassed or even apologetic to bring it up. We — and others — may make us feel silly as if we were making a big deal out of nothing.
Reclaiming your passion when you’ve been battered — and covert abuse is battering — is a journey. There are twists and turns, rocky roads and slippery slopes. The way may be smooth before you hit a steep incline or suddenly drop off at the edge of a precipice. But you have to keep going.
How can we lose something that is such a part of our being? And yet we can, and when we place ourselves in situations that drain our very soul, we do.
Our creative passion can help us to hold on to what is true within us. In the midst of usury and abuse, we [...]
Covert abusers can say the right things and they can be encouraging. That’s what’s so confusing. But when saying the right things and being encouraging is not followed through with action, then it’s just not real.
To some people, saying something is as good as doing it. It doesn’t matter if they hadn’t actually [...]