Covert abusers can say the right things and they can be encouraging. That’s what’s so confusing. But when saying the right things and being encouraging is not followed through with action, then it’s just not real.
To some people, saying something is as good as doing it. It doesn’t matter if they hadn’t actually [...]
So what does it look like when your creative passion is covertly attacked?
Covert abusers are cautious about being obvious with their intent, especially at first. They want to win your trust, or more accurately, lower your defenses. True to their covert nature, when they do start withdrawing their support, it will be indirectly.
Passion isn’t just about sexuality. Sex is actually only a part of what passion is, and not even an essential part, albeit, pleasurable and important in the lives of many.
Have you ever met a passionate person? You may know absolutely nothing about their sex life, but you can see they are filled with [...]
There is another face to loss of passion. At first glance it appears exactly the opposite, but if they are opposites they are opposite sides of the same coin. Someone on Facebook, reading my previous post on losing one’s passion, pointed out that while exploitation could make one hypo sexual it could also make you [...]
Far easier to recover from fatigue than to recover our passion, both sexual and creative, in an abusive relationship. It should be no surprise that loss of passion is connected to covert-abuse-induced fatigue. Covert abuse is so draining it doesn’t leave very much of you for anything else.
But covert abuse, also, affects how [...]