Feigning Negative Emotions: Anger

Fear is just one negative emotion that can be feigned. There are others like righteous anger and indignation. Instead of coming from a place of weakness like fear, indignation and righteous anger appears to come from strength. But in truth all manipulation comes from weakness.

Feigned indignation and righteous anger is a multipurpose weapon used [...]

Feigning Negative Emotions: Fear

Feigning means to fake, to act “as if”, to pretend. You can fake anything, including emotions. Any perceived emotion or state of being can be used to hide, mislead, seduce or distract.

In themselves, all emotional states of being just are. They can have negative impact if we deny their existence, thereby denying healing [...]

Smokescreens

The aim of covert abuse is to manipulate, to control or harm another without getting caught.

Manipulation is, by definition, difficult to spot. Some ways are easier to see than others, but it does require vigilance to be aware, and a challenge to maintain balance within ourselves. The greatest danger of being a target of [...]

Self-Blame

Covert abuse: the assaults, the pain…did I do something to deserve this?

No.

I could leave it at that and end this post, but I’ll delve into it a little further in case you’re not convinced. And if you’re a victim of covert abuse, chances are you aren’t.

Covert abuse, with its systematic erosion [...]

Self-Trivializing

Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?

When we experience covert abuse, the very subtlety of it can make us feel embarrassed or even apologetic to bring it up. We — and others — may make us feel silly as if we were making a big deal out of nothing.

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